All the Hallmark cards make it sound like the holidays, when shared with extended family, are wonderful. And mine usually are…but I have to admit it, since my children came along, the family get-togethers are stressful for Dave and me. Here’s why. Day after day, week after week, we rush around juggling our crazy schedules and high-spirited kids. Always sleep-deprived, we rarely get a break when we can be alone… and when we do, it’s a 10-dollar-an-hour babysitter fee that doubles the expense of going out. So when we pack up and head out to visit the grandparents, we look forward to some extra hands and free help. But our “vacation” quickly turns into a nightmare when the kids’ schedules are thrown and we’re resented for not pulling our weight with the grandkids. I am still upset about it today. We want to spend time with our loved ones, but we also depend on them for a little relief. The holidays are far from relaxing when you’re battling crabby kids and grandparents who think you’re a slacker. They don’t see me carrying out my regular routine, so during a break when I’m not working and therefore trying to unwind I’m being judged unfairly. Does this happen to anyone else when their extended family lives out of town? Tell me I’m not alone.
Posted under Baby Thomas: Month 16
This post was written by Tara on November 30, 2009