I have never understood women, or men for that matter, who try to control the buying power of their significant others. Sure you don’t want to live crazily beyond your means or spend irresponsibly… but if Dave wants to buy a nice dress shirt or to order pizza because he’s tired and hungry, I say go for it! We both work hard for our shared money. In a past relationship, he was not allowed to spend much of anything without pre-approval. He turned his paycheck over and had to beg for some monetary crumbs to make a rare selfish purchase. I don’t get that. Yes, for the most part I handle the family finances. But that’s because I have more time to do it and we both agree I’m more organized in that department. So when Dave left me a voicemail today explaining that he could trade in our current snowblower for a much bigger one at a discounted price, he was hoping for my support to make the deal happen. I called him back without hesitation and said, “Sure!” Afterall, he’s the one out there doing all the work. (P.S. We both put money in flex-spending accounts to cash out at the end of the year. This made the decision even easier.)
Addie from Cedar Rapids
Posted under Baby Thomas: Month 17
This post was written by tthomas on December 11, 2009
Hi Tara! Just hope Dave got the new and bigger snowblower before we had the big blizzard!! If not, I’m sure there’ll be plenty more snow before this winter is over. Hey, anything to make it easier and safer for us to remove the heavy snow.
Think it’s good to discuss things, especially before a big purchase. I don’t know what it would be like to no have the freedom to buy a few things that I want. I hope that Dave enjoys his new snowblower on this round of snow and doesn’t need to use it, at least not again this year. I’d like to say this winter, but I doubt that will happen.
You are so right on on this one. Kudos to you! He should get a new shirt! He should get to order a pizza! He should get to get a new toy to help him with his work! And, so should you! You two work hard together and “are together” for your family. Maybe he could blow-out a path through that field to Ron’s truck for you next time!!! ha ha ha (winking)I’m sure he would say, “Okay, honey! I’ll get right on it. Just follow behind me.” My husband is wonderful that way too. Sometimes, if I want something and feel like I just shouldn’t – he’ll just go get it for me and surprise me. Tara, we are the lucky ones.