I feel stupid/embarrassed/annoyed about what happened. In recent days, I have been experiencing what I thought were pregnancy symptoms. I racked my brain to recall which day I forgot my pill and took it many hours later… and if it happened more than once. Finally when I got on the scale last night, after hours spent putting together toys with Dave, I really got concerned. I had gained weight since a week ago and yet all but one day had been following my diet. It just didn’t make sense. We had to know. Dave hopped in his truck, drove to Walmart and returned with an at-home test. Those three minutes staring at the blinking clock in the digital read-out window afforded me enough time to play out a thousand scenarios in my head. Maybe this is why our house hasn’t sold, because we can’t afford it with another mouth to feed. So much for taking on a new workout plan in 2011, I will be waddling my way through bins of old baby clothes. You get the idea. Then the wait was over and NO came up on the screen. It put us both in better moods, sad to say. Had it been positive we would have embraced it and planned accordingly for our lack of planning… but a negative result was the preferred outcome. Minutes later our current brood came down the stairs after one woke the other up asleep in our bed. We were thrilled to see just the TWO of them. And today I am playing phone tag with the nurse to schedule Dave’s vasectomy!
Posted under Baby Thomas: Month 30
This post was written by Tara on December 21, 2010
We’ve been there but the results was positive. Love our little girl and can’t imagine life without her though. But within days of the news, hubby scheduled his long over due vasectomy – didn’t want to chance another one.
Almost too much personal information I am thinking.
I could visualize the look on your faces. I got a chuckle out of today’s post as I’ve been there and done that.
Your ability to look at the light side of things always amazes me. I enjoy following the antics of your family and hope you post for many more years.
Have they stopped making condoms?
Seriously?
Personally if a person can’t remember to take “a pill” that in my book is irresponsible. It’s a pill that controls just what you were thinking, what if, not really, what do we do, don’t really want this to be but OK we will be acceptive as parents, this will change my lifestyle.
And I know it happends or I wouldn’t be a grandmother, but I told my daughter the same thing, what part of the directions when it says to take one every day didn’t you understand? I would say the vasectomy is much needed and soon!
I can’t believe some of these comments. Tara – you are only human and God has his own plan. It makes me sad to see judgement on you, especially this season of Christ’s birth – a pregnancy Mary could not have planned for! Now my turn to add to your thoughts – my pregnancy test (two of them!)at home were negative – five days later still not feeling “right”— POSITIVE – Baby #3 ETA 3/10/11. You’re not out of the woods yet! Merry Christmas!
Wow-I can’t believe people are so negative! I love reading your blog and many people have been there, done that! I forget my pill sometimes, too. Can others really say they’ve never forgotten anything in their life? Wow. “Loveit”s comment immediately makes me think of the story in the Bible- he who is without sin, cast the first stone. Ok, my rant is over.
I completely understand how you felt about the better result being negative. And of course you would have loved that child if it were meant to be, but what a relief!
“accidents” are just that, accidents, life gets busy and Tara I’m sure your life is extremely so. I’m sure some people forget a vitamin, while others forget “the pill”. But like you stated, perhaps you forgot that pill for a reason, or perhaps the house isn’t selling for a reason……well, if my “monthly friend” doesn’t show up we may need your home that is bigger than ours……because we’ll need room for 4 instead of 3……:-) Have a very Merry and Blessed Christmas.
Glad to hear your honesty!! This is real stuff.. We all face no matter how responsible taking a pill is or not. I am human and I have forgot one. Hope all is good in your holiday season and new year.
I’m sure Tara wasn’t looking for followers to judge whether or not she is a responsible person. And yes, they still make condoms. And if its too much information, why did you continue to read the post? Obviously the title says it all. Blogs are meant to be personal, and Tara isn’t going to sugar coat anything, if you haven’t figured that out by now.
Our neighbor had her tubes tied after three children, now she has four. Nothing is perfect. Babies are a blessing from God, so why so much negativity from everyone?
Wow, Tara, I just couldn’t let some of the comments of your blog readers to slide by…I totally agree with Kari Jo and couldn’t have said it better myself!! I will reiterate her words to the negative Grinches out there…this is Tara’s blog meant to be personal, if too much info for you then why do you continue to read, and yes, I’m sure they still have condoms out there. Why would this individual who said that last comment even take the time to type something that ridiculous? (Thanks Kari Jo for letting me use some of your sentences:) You are a huge fan of ours Tara so we hope all the negative comments don’t get ya down. I hope you and your entire family have a very Merry Christmas…and keep on blogging!!
Geez…people are so rude. Tara, we have all been there. This happens to me like twice a year! And I am happily married with 2 kids but I couldn’t imagine if I had another one…..unplanned!!! Anyways, like some others said, if some of these readers can’t handle some info that happens to about 99% of us……STOP READING!
I love reading this stuff. It makes me realize that I am not the only one thinking/living this too. It’s just life
Have a very Merry Christmas to you and your family Tara!
Yes, too much information!
Geez Jenn, I didn’t think my comment was ridiculous, it just says that nothing is perfect, my neighbor had three children and didn’t really want another baby so she went in and had her tubes tied, low and behold she became pregnant a couple of years later and Christina was a welcome addition to the family. She knew that this little girl was meant to be and they love her dearly. Babies ARE a gift from God and had Tara been blessed with another child she would have loved it just as much as she loves Charlotte and Thomas. My parents had me 13 years after my sister and I would guess I wasn’t “planned”, but I certainly never knew it. I fully understand Tara’s thinking on this, I had an unplanned pregnancy after two children, which then ended with a miscarriage, I was heart broken, but life goes on, I do think about that little person who wasn’t meant to be often……….
Nora…I didn’t take your comment as ridiculous…I see where Jenn was coming from about some of the other comments. I was just catching up on the blog after quite a few months away…and I keep seeing some comments from the same people. It is OK to disagree with someone’s choices…but I am seriously wondering why some of these people even read the blog. I think they enjoy leaving rude comments!
We have 4 kids…first 2…no problem, then 2 miscarriages…so we treasured our 3rd child, and figured that would probably be the last pregnancy for us- but didn’t do anything permanent. One more miscarriage, and then a successful “surprise” pregnancy after that….we have 4 children who I wouldn’t trade for anything! Not the best financially…but they are treaasured & very much loved! I do think about the 3 little babies that may have been…even though those miscarriages were very early on….it was still a real loss to me. It made me deal with all of the other typical frustrations of lack of sleep, etc….I am lucky to have 4 healthy children…..and yes- we will be finished with 4….more my husband’s choice than mine at least on the timing of it all…but I know that I also did not think I could handle another miscarriage again either. Different for everyone.