I freely admit a lot of women I know, including me at times, like to control. We often convince ourselves that we’re not bossing our kids and husbands around because we have manipulated them into complying with what we want. So of course we’re not telling them what to do outright, just assuming they’ll be on board with our decision in the first place. It’s a sick cycle and one I see Charlotte falling into already. She wants to control EVERYTHING… which socks she wears, sippy cup she drinks, where we sit at a restaurant table, how low the window should be rolled, when Mommy and Daddy should sing along or when we shouldn’t talk! Dave continually tells her she is not going to control him. I usually go along with many of her demands or ignore them depending on their severity. Of course I have to question if she’s just being a typical 3-year-old or if she’s genetically predisposed due to Mommy’s tendencies. One benefit to all of this-I am making a conscious effort not to ramrod Dave. He doesn’t need two females telling him what to do at every turn. For example, this past weekend as we were getting the children ready for church Daddy rearranged Thomas’ room. When I walked in and discovered his effort, he started apologizing that now it was too cluttered and he shouldn’t have moved anything. I stopped him and instead praised him for how much better the room looked. Now when we walk up the stairs, instead of looking at a cluttered changing table we see the crib skirt with animals. A nice change that Daddy made without his wife’s input!
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Posted under Baby Thomas: Month 16
This post was written by tthomas on November 3, 2009
I don’t dare move any furniture around in our house or my hubby has a fit. Sometimes I do it anyway, but never lasts very long and I move it back to make him happy. Glad you praised Dave!
My parents have lived in the same home for the past 20 years. The only furniture that has ever been re-arranged was the couch. This was so it would be easier to move it out the door when the new one came. Then the new one went exactly where the old one use to be. Please praise Dave for moving the furniture.
Tara, long time reader - first time poster. Enjoy reading your postings and believe that this blog could be in the running for a pulitzer!! When your a public figure, your open to criticism as you know, even more so with a daily blog. But I can see that your handling all so beautifully!!.
Your doing a wonderful job, so keep on posting {and oh} go ahead and move those arms and hands around if you want to it it helps tell the story! Thanks Tara
I agree that we women, as a rule, like to run the show if we can. I can certainly see this in my growen daughters, and they say they get it from me. Ha Ha. However, our husbands aren’t always ready to do what we want and set us straight when they need to. We just never give up!
My 3 year old daughter is the same way! We have had to “do things” all over starting from the beginning because they weren’t done her way!! This morning we had an issue because daddy brushed her hair, couldn’t redo that one so easy!! I think all kids are a little different, with my two older girls I don’t remember too much of the “it has to be my way” thing! And well, the youngest (19 months) is out of luck since her 3 year old sister is busy calling the shots right now, she does however stand up to her and say “NO sissy” sometimes! I love reading your blog!