Sad how it usually takes a tragedy to get you to truly connect with people normally reserved for Facebook niceties. That’s how it’s been for me today once I learned from a phone call this morning about my former co-worker’s suicide. His wife, my good friend, found him last evening with their 2-year-old daughter. She’s okay, thankfully. Some 15 years ago I introduced them; Dave & I attended their wedding in 2005 when I was newly pregnant with Charlotte. Of course my heart breaks for her and her daughter. Talking with mutual friends today in Mississippi, Nebraska and California, there was some frustration expressed of course over how he could do something so selfish. I don’t know there were any signs other than to learn he had been down the past couple weeks. We all get down, so it’s tough to discern a more serious situation. One of my eventual thoughts was to offer her our basement as a place to temporarily land with her daughter on the path to rebuilding. Then I opened my devotional and read today’s entry: Do not let fixing things be your top priority. You are ever so limited in your capacity to correct all that is wrong in the world around you. Don’t weigh yourself down with responsibilities that are not your own. My close friend, also a widow, had some good advice. She said be there for your friend after the funeral is over and she’s truly alone. That’s when she’ll need me the most.
Posted under Baby Thomas: Month 41
This post was written by Tara on November 30, 2011