Somewhere along the line in a new relationship the EX is going to come up! Whether it’s a slip of the tongue, friends who mean well but say things without thinking or something else altogether..it’s pretty much inevitable.
Such was the case at Mr. New’s party on Saturday night. The whole party overall was a great time. I was so happy that he got to spend it with some very good friends and family. The food was delicious and the weather was perfect for a game of bags in the backyard. While he was outside joking and laughing I happened to be in the kitchen with some of his good friends many of whom I was meeting for the very first time.
Somehow the conversation turned to the EX and while I am sure these friends meant well the conversation seemed to go on for a long time. Perhaps longer than was necessary. Not only that–the EX was brought up several times throughout the night. To the point where even my friend who was with me seemed to feel uncomfortable for me.
It goes without saying that no new girlfriend really wants to hear the details of her man’s past but I believe it may be lost on some people. Why do some people feel the need to bring up the EX constantly? I think sometimes people mean well but do not understand what a new relationship can be like.
I have no problem with most of it because without those experiences in both of our pasts– you never learn and we would probably not be together. You have to go through a lot of frogs to meet a prince as they say!
Sometimes well meaning friends can say things without really thinking. It did teach me a valuable lesson being on the receiving end. I will think twice when I am around somebody’s new love and make sure I don’t bring up anything that could potentially make them feel uncomfortable. :)
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This post was written by nchughtai on August 13, 2012