How many sentences do I say every day that start with, “Honey, could you please”? I honestly don’t know the answer! In my case, I’m lucky that most of the time, my husband is pretty darn good about completing my “honey-do” requests. But I think there’s a very careful line we have to walk when we ask our spouses to do something.
I will be the first to admit that I like to do things on my own time table, which doesn’t always coincide with everyone else’s expectations, family and spouse included. If you ask for your request too many times, you’ll often get a response that may include some sense of frustration or maybe even a “Why can’t you do that yourself?” Neither are really all that unfair when you think about it.
It’s important to be careful to only ask for a “honey do” when you really need help with something, and to try really hard not to nag. It can be one of those “pick your battles” kind of things. Your spouse will certainly appreciate a limitation on requests, and you might find they’re more willing to help when they don’t feel overly obligated, or that they’ll be “in the doghouse” if they don’t do what you ask.
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This post was written by kmashek on December 28, 2010