Last Wednesday, I thought I would race home and have to clean the house in a tizzy to get it looking halfway decent for small group Bible study that evening. Floyd had parent-teacher conferences and wouldn’t be home until late. But much to my surprise, the cleaning fairy arrived! Floyd had a little down time between school letting out and conferences starting, and rather than catching up on everything else in the world, he made a special trip to the house to tidy up. He dusted, vacuumed and straightened up! I was most impressed.
This week, while he’s on spring break, we’re sending Drake to daycare just for a half-day, so that we don’t have to burn our vacation days with the center so early in the year. Then Floyd can get some housework done in the mornings, and have Drake bonding time in the afternoon.
Tuesday, his cleaning fairy skills kicked in again! After Drake had spit up on the carpeting, he deemed it a good time to break out the steam vac and clean the living room carpeting. It really looked great. But unfortunately, the first thing I noticed–he rearranged the living room furniture and I hated it. And I let him know I hated it. Last night during our Bible study, we were talking about how wives sometimes get in the bad habit of being criticizers, and that sometimes that causes our husbands to stonewall us. During our discussion, Floyd & I brought up this little scenario of how I failed to appreciate his hard work cleaning the carpets because I was too caught up in hating the way the furniture looked. Thankfully, he’s very patient and forgiving. I did eventually laud his handy-work, and he put the furniture back the way I liked it. Yes, I got my way. But lesson learned: praise him first, and be a little nicer in the way I express what I’d like to see happen instead of just outright saying I don’t like it. It’s all back to that journey of Love & Respect—being more careful with my need to be unconditionally respectful of Floyd, no matter what. (Easier said than done! But we can both work to improve. )
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This post was written by kmashek on March 15, 2012