Thanks to the genetics of my father, I can tend to be a forgetful person. Writing things down or saving them into my phone helps me remember and keep track of where I need to be when and my to-do’s. I am so fond of writing things down that when I was in school I would re-write or type up my notes and chapter highlights to study. Doing so helped me commit it to my memory to do well on tests.
Floyd on the other hand is not one for notes. In fact, he loathes them.
Next week, my parents are coming to visit–and there is a ton of stuff around the house that needs to get done before they arrive. So I started to jot down a list to, in my mind, help Floyd manage day-to-day tasks he could simply check off and get done at his leisure. He was not very happy with this idea, and said, “I know what needs to be done. Don’t worry about it.”
I was admittedly a bit miffed initially. Sometimes it’s just hard for me to think that other people approach getting a job done differently than I do, or how I might best like it to be done. Even after 6 years of marriage, and 11 years as a couple, that still doesn’t always sink in through my thick skull I suppose.
At any rate, yes Floyd’s been getting it done without my dreaded list or nudging reminders. I just have to sit back and practice my imperfect patience and not delegate responsibilities to the point it makes him go nuts.
We just finished our small group study of “Love & Respect” and I got to thinking about how I should sometimes “practice what I preach”. It’s all about recognizing our different perspectives as a man and woman to make a perfect union in God’s eyes. The author puts it in terms of how men see through blue glasses and listen with blue hearing aids, while women see through pink glasses and listen with pink hearing aids. Together, our challenge is to become purple–a melding of the best of us both. Just because we do things differently doesn’t make it wrong. It makes us “us”. Ultimately, when we let ourselves blend into purple, it glorifies God. We set an example of what a strong, healthy marriage looks like for the world to see. It’s a hefty, but important burden. And sometimes I just have to take a step back, think before I speak or act, and let purple take its place.
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This post was written by kmashek on May 31, 2012