I was staring at boxes of eye drops in the pharmacy when a woman pushing her baby in a cart said [LOUDLY], “SO, WHY’D YOU DO IT?”
I must have given her a confused look.
Because in my head I thought, “#$%*#! My ‘disguise’ isn’t working!”
Clearly my incognito look of no make-up, frazzled hair and sweatpants on my day off wasn’t working.
[Lets face it, there are days I want to go to the store unnoticed and get home. This was one of 'em.]
“WHY’D YOU ADOPT?” she asked again, almost yelling.
My dry eyes met hers in the middle of that aisle.
“Why not?” I asked her with a smile, as I grabbed a box of eye drops and walked away.
Those of you who have followed this blog for awhile know I sometimes grapple with how to handle these types of situations.
Sometimes I’m a bit thrown off guard.
I love that people feel comfortable asking me questions about adoption.
And I love talking about it!
But sometimes, like the other day in the pharmacy, I just want to be the tired Momma running a quick errand.
And sometimes, like the other day in the pharmacy, I feel like I have no privacy.
Sure, it comes with the territory of being in the public eye.
But I didn’t even know this lady’s name.
And I can’t imagine how Olivia would feel if she was older and could understand this lady’s demand.
So I was proud of myself for responding how I did.
Which brings me to my point…[Yes. Believe it or not, I do have a point here...]
I think it’s important for everyone to ask themselves the same question I posed for the woman in the pharmacy:
Why not adopt?
-Don’t know where to start?
-Don’t know anyone who has adopted?
-Scared you’ll get a “messed up” kid?
-Too much risk involved with someone else carrying your baby?
There are so many reasons people don’t consider adoption.
And it’s sad.
But let’s face it — the unknown is scary.
Yes, adoption itself is even scarier than someone recognizing you incognito at the pharmacy
[Seriously, do I look that disheveled on TV?]
When it boils down to it, though, I truly believe we ALL have an obligation to have an open heart when it comes to adoption.
Do I believe adoption is right for everyone?
But I do believe everyone should ask themselves what they can do to support and love adoptive families, birth parents and especially our precious adopted children.
And perhaps most importantly, I believe every single child — no matter how young or how old — deserves a loving, forever family.
No questions about it.