“Mom, can I play with your makeup?”
I remember laughing to myself when my 8-year-old asked me that over the weekend. I remember asking that SAME question to my mom and sister growing up. I used to love play with makeup. Now I kill for the moments where I don’t have to put any on.
I gave her the same response I got many years ago…
“G, you don’t need any makeup…you’re beautiful just like you are.”
She quickly quipped back with the fact that I wear makeup. I wanted to get into the fact that without it, I would look like the Crypt Keeper.
I let her play with it…after all, it’s fun to do girly things like that with your mom. She knew she had to scrub the hell out of her face before we went anywhere. But as long as we were inside…go for it.
There we were…sitting on her bedroom floor…and I was trying to teach her the importance of blending makeup in. “Make sure your face and neck match.” (Things my mom neglected to tell me and I had to learn the hard way) lol
Since I had her there…I figured it was the perfect time for a mother-daughter talk about what’s REALLY IMPORTANT. I actually wrote her a letter recently. There was a moment when I realized that the little girl with spiral curls who loved to watch Disney movies and dress up like a princess is quickly turning into a tween who loves to make Music-ly videos, experiment with makeup and try out all of my perfumes.
It hit me recently that you are slowly entering into another stage of life. I know you like playing with makeup…trying new hairstyles and looking in the mirror a lot longer than usual these days. I get it. You want to look “pretty.” But I want to make sure you focus on some things that are far more important than your reflection in the mirror.
I want you to focus on your mind…never stop being curious…never stop asking questions.
Read, read, read! And make sure you know your current events.
People will ALWAYS remember how you made them feel. I want you to focus on being KIND.
I want you to focus on your dreams…but make sure to write them down. That makes them goals.
Be sure to listen rather than focusing on what you’re going to say next.
Don’t lie. Ever. If you always tell me the truth, I won’t be mad.
Be humble with your success, and be gracious with your failures. That said, don’t be afraid to fail.
Be loyal. To your family, your friends, your coaches and teachers.
You are not better than anyone, and no one is better than you.
Pray. But don’t use God as a genie in a bottle…it doesn’t work like that.
Be willing to admit when you are wrong or if you messed up.
Get good grades. Always. A good education will take you very far in this life…but you have to put the work in.
Never lose your sense of humor. There is no cooler feeling than making your friends laugh until it hurts.
I want you to focus on all of those things. Those are the things that MATTER IN OUR HOME.
There will be things that will be said to you that will hurt your feelings and you will want to cry. Go ahead and let it out. That doesn’t make you weak. But don’t get lost in your tears…put your shoulders back, your head up and be the best version of you. You define you. Hurtful words are just noise.