Ban BOSSY?? eh…

March 18, 2014 1 Comment

Not sure how I feel about this whole campaign to ban the word “bossy” for girls. I completely agree that we want to encourage our daughters to be assertive, strong leaders.  But let’s be honest…sometimes “bossy” can sum up the way someone is acting.

I’ve heard my daughter be bossy. “Go get me that now! Nico, you give that toy to me right now! You need to draw the unicorn this way.” Yep. That’s bossy. My daughter is not going to get a high-five from me saying, “Way to be assertive, Giana! You are a natural leader!”  She’s not being assertive…she’s not being a leader…she’s acting BOSSY. If I do that, she will turn into an unbearable classmate…colleague…and potential boss someday.

What the “Ban Bossy” Campaign seems to forget (in my opinion) is quite simple: being bossy and being a leader are two different things.

You cannot DEMAND respect. You COMMAND respect. How you carry yourself, how you treat others, how you respond when things don’t go your way.

Bossy people are often rude and have complete disregard for others.

girl in the chair of the boss warning

A leader has integrity and is positive.


How about instead of working to ban a word, we work hard to teach our daughters how to be leaders and stand up to the bossy girls.

“The challenge of leadership is to be strong, but not rude; be kind, but not weak; be bold, but not bully; be thoughtful, but not lazy; be humble, but not timid; be proud, but not arrogant; have humor, but without folly.”

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  1. NE Iowa Mom says:

    Nothing worse than a bossy child in the classroom. They can incite a riot in just a few minutes. I enjoyed reading your thoughts and agree with them 100%!

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